Whether you’ve been in a relationship for over 25 years or are just starting out, we all have our own idea of what romance is. Romance is an essential element of every successful and passionate relationship. Usually relationships start with romance but life has a tendency to interfere. I have listed below what I believe are the 10 biggest misconceptions that people have about Romance:

1.Romance and Sex are the Same Thing: This could not be any further from the truth. Although romance can lead to sex, a person being romantic just for sex will be completely transparent and possibly backfire. Think of Romance as ‘Mental Foreplay’. Romance let’s your loved one know that not only did you think about them but you took the extra step to show them how much they mean to you.

2.Romance isn’t important in a relationship: Between our jobs, hobbies, and all the other things that life throws at us, our relationship with our partner tends to take a back seat to those things we perceive as more important in life. The reality is that the relationship with our partner is the glue that holds everything else in our life together. Adding Romance to your relationship will not only make it more exciting but also more enjoyable.

3.Being Romantic requires a lot of money: Romance isn’t about how much money you spend on your partner. It’s about trying to make some of their fantasies and dreams come true. Most of the time just opening the door for your partner or complementing them on the way they look will make them feel more loved than buying them an expensive gift.

4.Romance requires a great deal of time and effort: While some aspects of romance can require lots of time, romance is also about the little things that make a big difference in a relationship. A simple thing like turning down the lights, putting on your favorite CD and dancing in the kitchen while dinner is in the oven exudes Romance and takes very little time and effort.

5.Only Women are Romantic: In most relationships, the woman is considered to be more romantic, however this does not have to be the case. Both men and women need to partake in the hunt for romance. The only difference between a romantic person and the unromantic person is the amount of time they devote to doing the little things for their partner and their relationship.

6.Flowers and candy always work: Although flowers and candy are a nice gesture, they are so commonplace. You can still give your partner flowers and candy but spice it up some. Try taking your partner to the place where you first met or kissed and present the flowers and candy to them there. Going that extra step and not stopping at ordinary makes all of the difference when it comes to Romance.

7.You’re either born a romantic or you’re not: The truth is, no one is born with a ‘Romance Gene’. Everyone has to learn how to be romantic either from a book, the way your friends or family treat each other, movies, TV, or some other resource. One nice thing about Romance is that it is contagious, as time goes on you want to be more and more romantic towards your partner and chances are your partner will be more romantic in return.

8.Saying ‘I Love You’ is enough: Everyone likes to hear ‘I Love You’ but when it comes to Romance, actions can say more than a thousand words ever will. Being truly romantic is about backing up the words with something your partner will remember. Try something like writing ‘I Love You’ on the top of the stick of butter with a toothpick before setting it on the table for dinner.

9.Romance takes a lot of preparation: The nice thing about Romance is that there is no exact formula - what one person finds extremely romantic may not be romantic at all to someone else. The key to being Romantic is to find out what your partner finds Romantic. Don’t be afraid to ask them, they will be glad you did.

10.Being Romantic on Valentines Day and Sweetest Day is enough: Being romantic on the days you are supposed to be is expected. Being romantic all year round on the other hand is vital to the overall health of you relationship. Every successful relationship needs impulsiveness and spontaneity - it keeps things exciting.

Bryan Heestand is the owner/operator of the vastly popular website http://www.rominder.com/

Rominder.com is a simple, inexpensive, and convenient way to become more impulsive, spontaneous, and romantic all year long. Not only will Rominder.com remind you to be Romantic via email, they will also send you a Romance tip or idea along with the reminder.
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Guys who describe themselves as the nice guy are always saying things like, “Why do nice guys finish last?” The answer is - they don’t… Weak guys finish last. Very often behaviors that you call nice are perceived by women as weak. And they are usually right.

So Mr. Nice Guy, get ready for a rude awakening - You are really Mr. Weak Guy. The gauge you are using to qualify your “niceness” is way off. You need to think in terms of being a GOOD guy, not a NICE guy. Women really don’t want jerks. They want many of the qualities that a jerk portrays but they don’t want you to really be a mean jerk.

Take a look at the classic hero in most action movies. Let’s look at Indiana Jones for a minute. You’ll notice that for the most part he isn’t a nice guy. He has no time for silly games, he tends to be rather abrupt with people who can’t keep up with him, and he doesn’t kiss anyone’s ass. To the amateur eye he may even come across as a jerk. But, here’s what makes him the hero. When it comes down to it he really is a good guy. He really wants to help people. He has a big heart and even sacrifices his own life to help others around him. This is what women want. It’s okay to have a big heart and to be a really good guy. In fact, women LOVE that. It’s one of the main qualities they look for in a man.

You need to learn to separate the concept of what you’ve been calling the “nice guy” from the “good guy.” The nice guy tells everyone what they want to hear. The nice guy doesn’t stand his ground or voice his opinion when people offer adversity. The good guy isn’t concerned with catering to everyone around him and isn’t interested in telling people what they want to hear. He is however very caring and really wants to help people when it comes to serious issues. The good guy is the one who sacrifices himself when it really counts. He has a genuine love for people. You can and should be a good guy without being a weak “nice guy”.

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There had been an old saying, a confident women, is always a beautiful woman.

I don’t know how much will you be agree with that, but the statement should be adjusted to :

A Confident Person, No Matter Guy Or Girl, Young Or Old, Is Always An Attractive Person.

A confident, relaxed and happy person is always attractive.
(And, relaxed and happy personality is the result of confidence)

Now, let’s see what confidence leads to in your love life:

A confident person always feels good about him/herself. When you feel good about yourself, you tend to be more positive about your surroundings, it doesn’t matter how you look like, or whether you are tall, short, thin or fat. You tend to smile more, you tend to talk more with others, and you will not be easily depressed.

When you smile more, you will get him/her to smile to you too. When both of you smile with each other, you will feel easier to start a conversation.

When you are able to start a conversation with others, you lose your fear of not being able to break the ice. Result? You became even more confident!

And guess what? You start to be more daring to talk to him/her! You may start to talk about jokes, (When people laugh, they become closer, you like those with great sense of humor, right?).

And then, you start to talk about things that happen in your life. (When you share your own experience, he/she will share his/her too- remember)

When this happens, both you and he/she are into each others life, and you start caring about each other. Whether or not you and he/she become together in the future or not, it really doesn’t matter. If you can’t become soul mate, you can always become good friends.

What REALLY matters is, you manage to attract him/her and make a good chance of getting your love.

Did you see the chain reaction as the results of your self-confidence?

Did you notice that once it gets started, it leads from one to another, and at the same time, build your confidence even stronger?

Did you realize that subconsciously, you managed to attract him/her?

DO YOU SEE THE POWER OF SELF CONFIDENCE?

But, you problem is, you don’t have the self confidence with you in the first place!

This is how you feel about yourself right now:

- You are not handsome, you are not beautiful.

- You don’t have good body shape, you are big in size, you are too shortetc

- You don’t know how to start a conversation, you are shy.

- You, you, youand so on

In Short, you feel that you don’t have what it takes to build your self-confidence.

What do you need?

You need a KICK START!

You need that magic touch to get things start rolling.

You need A CORRECT MINDSET!

Before you read on, STOP all the other things that you are doing now, and READ CAREFULLY!

I am going to reveal to you the most important phrase you ever need to be successful in your love life.

It is not something new, but it will open a new door to your love life.
It is not something cheerful; it actually makes you slap yourself on your face.
And, worst of all, if you don’t read carefully, you become even worse than what you are now.

“YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE!”